Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION

1 THE REVELATION 1

2 HAPPY MARRIAGES 13

Discussion: 19

Do religious and social influences lead gay men to marry straight women?

3. DISCOVERY 25

Discussion: 29

How do the discoveries of infidelity and homosexuality affect the straight spouse?

4. INTERNET SECRETS 33

Discussion: 41

The internet is a tool for discovery.

5. EXPLORING HIS SECRET WORLD 45

Discussion: 50

Why should you document your discovery process?

6. THE CONFRONTATION 55

Discussion: 66

How do you find the “right” divorce lawyer?

7. AFTER THE SHOCK 73

Discussion: 76

What exactly are HIV/AIDS and STD tests… and what’s the big deal?

8. WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBORS SAY? 81

Discussion: 85

How to find a good therapist.

9. SHOULD WE TELL THE KIDS? 89

10. MOVING ON 95